“Mom! Mom! Can I have quiet time now?”
I’m startled awake and open my eyes to see my six-year-old about two inches from my face, yell-whispering his eager pleas to get up. I glance over at the clock… 7:44. Oh man… I missed it again.“
It” being that calm, early morning stillness before the bustle and enthusiasm of little people fills the house, and it’s time to invite them to join me for “quiet” time in the living room. “So much for my resolutions.”
I knew that, as much as I could blame my circumstances, it was mostly because of my lack of self-control that I had missed that time with the Lord to soak in His truth and prepare for the new day. Yes, the baby had had a screaming fit at midnight due to teething… but I also should’ve been asleep by then (which I definitely wasn’t). I just couldn’t let go of that late night alone time even though I had had nothing all that important to tend to. It was ultimately my choice not to stick to my goal that threw me off.
If I could hazard a guess, I’m probably not the only one who is feeling the slow crumbling of New Year resolutions about this time. I feel my own inability and weakness to make good and necessary changes, especially as a mom with young children when it’s difficult to stick to anything with consistency. Naturally, this is the time when I would want to throw in the towel, making myself feel better with the excuse that this is just not the time of life to make resolutions (which may in some cases be valid… but that’s for another day). I would want to wait for the next big milestone to start again – maybe the beginning of a new week, or a new month or quarter, or my next birthday, or something like that. But for those things that are good and right to pursue and that promote godly discipline and spiritual growth (such as healthy sleep patterns), there is no better time to begin pursuing them again than right now.
Lamentations 3:22-23 says,
“The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases;
His mercies never come to an end;
They are new every morning;
Great is your faithfulness.”
God doesn’t need a new year, a new week, or a new milestone to help us get back up and continue to sanctify us by His grace. His indwelling Spirit never runs dry, and never takes a break from being our Helper to live in a manner that glorifies Christ and transforms us more and more into His image. It’s all too easy to forget that we are not called to change in our own strength, and that it’s not even possible… not at a heart-level. Oh, sure, we might learn some tips from self-help gurus that modify our behavior and increase our quality of life. But none of that will have eternal value in and of itself.
Sometimes I forget the real reason I’m even making a “resolution” in the first place. Sometimes I choose to make changes simply for my own convenience or to make myself feel better about my ability to be disciplined and “on top of things.” But the driving force behind any change should be to glorify God and live in a manner that is worthy of the gospel I proclaim as His redeemed child.
God doesn’t need a new year, a new week, or a new milestone to help us get back up and continue to sanctify us by His grace.
Now, modifying sleep habits may not seem as significant as something like overcoming a blatant sin issue. But the reality is, those things can be a weight that we’re supposed to lay aside along with the sin that entangles us (Heb 12:1). Anything that I’m doing (or not doing) that is hindering me from accomplishing what God has put before me with excellence can be changed in me by His grace. This isn’t legalism. It’s a life of joyful, reckless abandon to the One who is eternally worthy. I have one life… and I want to be able to say with Paul that I have obeyed “with all his energy that he powerfully works within me” (Colossians 1:29).
We’ll never “arrive” this side of heaven. And no amount of resolutions will turn us into the people we are supposed to be. Only Jesus can do that. Day after day as we seek to bring glory to Him in the small and big things of life, He’ll produce the lasting fruit. So let’s not try to muscle our way to keeping those disciplines. When we fail, let’s remember that His grace is sufficient and His mercies are new. And let’s surrender afresh to His work, allowing the change to be of Him and for Him.
Your friend,
![I regularly see posts about the difficulty of motherhood. I also frequently get asked questions about it. One post I saw several days ago caught my attention, and made my heart ache.
Here’s a snippet:
“I wish I’d known how big a load [motherhood] was to carry. But I also am glad I was naive because some days I think, if I would have known how hard it was, I never would have signed up for this.
The mess.
The chaos.
The crying.
The fighting.
The lack of sleep.
No alone time.
No days off.
No leaving the house on a whim…”
The rest of the post was dedicated to inviting women to share about the hard of motherhood—giving permission to vent their frustration.
And that’s where it ended.
But, sisters, this is *not* where it ends. For those who know Jesus, this is where it begins. The hard of motherhood is the perfect place for His power to be displayed. Our lives become fertile ground for sanctification and transformation. And, when our eyes are fixed on Jesus, we have a goal and vision for motherhood that goes far beyond today.
As Christ-following mamas, our lives should reflect to those around us that Jesus is enough;
that He is our comfort and peace.
That He is our wisdom and joy.
That we aren’t left to our own wit and strength.
If we don’t take God at His Word—believe and obey by His grace—how will the world know He changes everything?
Fellow mamas, let’s not stop at hard. Let’s allow Jesus to start there, being beacons of hope to a world so in need of Him.
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Thank you, Heather, for sharing your thoughts. I was a student at Ellerslie with your sister, and had the privilege of worshipping with you a few times. This is exactly the truth I needed to hear!
I’m so very thankful to hear this! And how neat that you were at Ellerslie with my sister! Blessings to you, Jessica!
As I read the paragraph leading up to the Lamentations quote, I was greatly encouraged by the idea that God doesn’t wait for a new week, a new month or a new year to give us a fresh start. His mercies are new every morning. Much like what I read in The Mediterranean Zone about healthy eating, that we are only one meal away from bringing our bodies back into balance. The idea is that when we eat a meal that is a perfect balance of fat, protein and carbs, we have the energy we need to make it to the next meal without feeling hungry. And if we blow it one meal, it doesn’t take a week to get back on track. The very next meal can bring us back balance. How much I need to remember that God’s Grace is present for me at every moment. I feel discouraged? I make a bad choice? I give in to temptation? I don’t have to wait even a day to get back on track. He is there – my Savior is there! – ready to shower me with new mercies! A fresh start is just a call away. A call of repentance and belief and obedience.
Those are such good thoughts, Aunt Kathy! Thank you for sharing!