Book Recommendation – Comparison Girl by Shannon Popkin

When I first saw the title of this book, I was excited to read it since I knew that comparison is something I can struggle with. But until I picked it up and started reading, I seriously had no idea just how much I am prone to comparison. It hit me right between the eyes in the best possible way. 

Shannon does a wonderful job sharing how the life of Jesus is an example of how we ought to live. She gives so many stories of how loving and serving and putting others first helps us be “me-free,” as she puts it, which is how Jesus lived and asked His followers to live, too. It’s so very clear through her writing that this kind of living brings life and joy.

Shannon uses the analogy of a measuring cup to describe comparison, which I thought was a brilliant, well, comparison. In essence, when we are focused on the lines of our “measuring cup” of life, we’re using our energy to compare to what others have (whether “better” or “worse” than us) rather than using what we have been given to love others. But when we are more focused on pouring out for others than the “lines” on our measuring cups, we are free to love and serve others without wrong comparison. Being a word picture gal myself, this has helped me immensely when I’m tempted to compare myself to someone else. 

The book is divided into lessons, so you can read it either by yourself or with a group. 

Here are a few favorite quotes. 

“Wisdom – whether from above or below – is always saying, “You should do this.” It wants to take your hand and lead you in a direction. So how can you tell these two wisdoms apart? Here’s a clear distinction. Wisdom from below says, “You should do what’s good for you.” It leads you down the path of self-focus, self-protection, and self-promotion. But wisdom from above says, “You should not only do what’s good for you but also what is good for others.””

(pg. 36-37)

“As Comparison Girls, when we find it gratifying to look down on others’ sin with disgust, we should know that we’re sitting in Jesus’ seat (John 5:22). We’re like a preschooler, sneaking into the highest court and climbing into the world Chief Justice’s chair. The gavel is not ours, and we don’t belong. Our preschool judgements will be instantly dismissed the day Jesus – our righteous King and Judge – orders everyone out of his chair.”

(pg. 87)

“When I shift from comparing myself to celebrating others, from shifting my focus from the lines to the spout, it not only blesses my friends, it changes me. This is true at home, in my neighborhood, and church, and online. Each time I tip my measuring cup with self-forgetfulness, the lines become irrelevant … and a little more grime gets scrubbed from inside of my cup.”

(pg. 145)

This is certainly one to put on your “Must Read” list! 

You can grab a copy HERE!

Also, to learn more about Shannon and her other wonderful resources, CLICK HERE to visit her website.

Thank you, Shannon, for this gift to your sisters in Christ.