When I first saw the title of this book, I was excited to read it since I knew that comparison is something I can struggle with. But until I picked it up and started reading, I seriously had no idea just how much I am prone to comparison. It hit me right between the eyes in the best possible ... Read More about Book Recommendation – Comparison Girl by Shannon Popkin
Nine Years, Nine Lessons
Nine years ago on August 6, 2011 Judah and I joined our lives together in marriage. By God’s grace, they have been wonderful years. They’ve most certainly been full of the “normal” aspects that cause friction between two people as they meld their lives together. But this has also brought about ... Read More about Nine Years, Nine Lessons
Reminder: It’s All Worship
Recently I was woken up in the wee hours of the morning by the sounds of a sick-to-their-stomach child. The rest of the night was spent comforting her and cleaning up the mess that inevitably comes with this kind of situation. I don’t sleep well in general, and found myself dreading the coming ... Read More about Reminder: It’s All Worship
Five Lessons I’ve Learned from My Parents
This week my parents are celebrating their 33rd anniversary. But this year, they aren’t able to celebrate together. My mom is back in CO helping my sister get ready for her wedding, and my dad is holding down the fort in their SE Asia home. And, due to all the restrictions with international ... Read More about Five Lessons I’ve Learned from My Parents
The Full Focus Planner
Several years ago, Judah and I decided to really get serious about growing in our unity and vision for our family for the glory of God, and to use our time more wisely (which we’ve enjoyed sharing about through some videos in the past). Part of this has been developing the discipline of planning ... Read More about The Full Focus Planner
![Not long ago I was asked to do something that a few years (and kids) ago I could say yes to fairly easily. But with the coming of more little ones, homeschooling, and all the other tasks on my plate as a wife and mama, it was just too much.
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I was expressing to Judah how guilty I felt for needing to say no. Technically I could probably have figured out how to fit it in, but I knew it would be a detriment to my priorities. Judah said, “You shouldn’t feel guilty for saying no to something that hinders you from your job. Mothering is your full-time job, and it’s ok to treat it that way. You couldn’t commit to [this other thing] if you were working somewhere else, right? It’s ok to say no so that you are doing your job well.”
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Do you know how freeing those words were for me? They reminded me of the value and dignity of my work as a mama and homemaker. It reminded me that God doesn’t see this is “just motherhood.” It’s a good and important roll, and I can and should treat it as such.
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Does this mean motherhood is the only thing I ever do? No. Does this mean my value is tied up in motherhood? Also no. There are times when I can say yes to outside opportunities without it causing unnecessary disruption to our family. But there is joy and freedom in embracing this full-time job of mothering and letting other things go for now that don’t fit with that. I’m quite sure (from what I’ve heard) I’ll never regret it.
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(I had just drafted this post when I saw one written by @abigail__dodds that was from a mama’s perspective 10 years down the road from where I am now. You should go read it).
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