Maybe I’m the only one, but I’ve noticed a fairly significant amount of mixed opinions milling around on the interwebs these days… Actually, I know I’m not the only one who’s noticed this. I’m not that old, but I certainly can’t remember a time where so much has been openly (and hotly) debated, ... Read More about Are We Different? Because We Should Be
Fight Your Fears – Book Recommendation
Fear was a stronghold in my life for many years, especially during childhood. God really got ahold of me in that realm in my early 20’s, and I’m so grateful for the transforming work He is doing in my life in freeing me from fear of other things outside of Him. All that to say, when I saw that ... Read More about Fight Your Fears – Book Recommendation
Faith and a Coffee Shop
It’s been a bit quieter here the past couple of weeks, because life outside this space has taken a unique twist we didn’t see coming at all. In short, we co-purchased a coffee shop. Yes, we’ve been called crazy several times. And we don’t completely disagree. If you had told me I’d be publishing ... Read More about Faith and a Coffee Shop
Truth and Social Media: My Guidelines (Part 2)
A few months ago I wrote a post called Love and Social Media: My Guidelines. In that post I addressed more of the “how” behind my guidelines for posting on social media: posting everything in love. I touched on the fact that I hold myself accountable for sharing truth, but I didn’t really dive into ... Read More about Truth and Social Media: My Guidelines (Part 2)
Redeemer of Our Stings
I sat listening to a few women in the room tell about their experience with breech birth. Because It’s not a normal ordeal, it is naturally intriguing to hear everyone else’s story. Sometimes though, those stories (breech birth or otherwise) come with a sting. I wanted to also share about how ... Read More about Redeemer of Our Stings
![Not long ago I was asked to do something that a few years (and kids) ago I could say yes to fairly easily. But with the coming of more little ones, homeschooling, and all the other tasks on my plate as a wife and mama, it was just too much.
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I was expressing to Judah how guilty I felt for needing to say no. Technically I could probably have figured out how to fit it in, but I knew it would be a detriment to my priorities. Judah said, “You shouldn’t feel guilty for saying no to something that hinders you from your job. Mothering is your full-time job, and it’s ok to treat it that way. You couldn’t commit to [this other thing] if you were working somewhere else, right? It’s ok to say no so that you are doing your job well.”
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Do you know how freeing those words were for me? They reminded me of the value and dignity of my work as a mama and homemaker. It reminded me that God doesn’t see this is “just motherhood.” It’s a good and important roll, and I can and should treat it as such.
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Does this mean motherhood is the only thing I ever do? No. Does this mean my value is tied up in motherhood? Also no. There are times when I can say yes to outside opportunities without it causing unnecessary disruption to our family. But there is joy and freedom in embracing this full-time job of mothering and letting other things go for now that don’t fit with that. I’m quite sure (from what I’ve heard) I’ll never regret it.
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(I had just drafted this post when I saw one written by @abigail__dodds that was from a mama’s perspective 10 years down the road from where I am now. You should go read it).
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